Having a child diagnosed with cancer is something no parent is prepared for — how could you be? But, it’s something you learn to adapt to, because you have to. That’s the message Shaunyl Benson, whose son with husband, illusionist Criss Angel, is currently battling pediatric cancer, shared on Mother’s Day.
Benson and Angel’s son, 6-year-old Johnny Crisstopher, is currently battling acute lymphoblastic leukemia (ALL) and the couple has been candid with fans about the struggle of watching their young son battle the disease, while trying to keep little Johnny’s spirits up.
Read MoreIn her Mother’s Day post, Benson noted that while there are countless books on how to be a mother, no one really tells you have to be a “cancer mother.”
“When my first son came along, my whole world changed. I changed … as an individual. As a woman. I followed all the rules, I even read the books. I was prepared for everything, anything. But not cancer,” Benson wrote. “Now I’m a part of this club … it’s a shitty club that no one wants to be in. It’s a club I’d never want anyone to be in. A club of broken mothers. We wear brave masks for everyone else, but when no one is watching we lay in bed and cry.”
Benson continued to say that while people commend her for being so strong during her son’s cancer battle, she has her weak moments like any other mother. “I'm just a mother who has no choice but to put on my brave face and be the strongest I can be,” she wrote.
Benson’s post was met with love from fans all over the world — many of whom also had children battle cancer, and praised Benson for speaking up about such an important issue.
Johnny Crisstopher’s Cancer Journey
Johnny was first diagnosed with ALL when he was under two years old in October 2015. After that, he was in treatment for around three years before his cancer went into remission. Then, Angel told TMZ in December 2019 that his son, who was 5 at the time, had experienced a cancer recurrence and would again need to begin chemotherapy treatments. Angel and Benson have both shared regular updates about Johnny’s journey with their social media fans — from the many ways they try to keep his spirits up, to some really heart-wrenching moments, like when Johnny had to shave his hair off during treatment.
Leukemia is the most common type of cancer diagnosed in young children and teens, and about three out of four leukemias diagnosed in children are ALL, according to the American Cancer Society. Pediatric cancer is most commonly diagnosed in children between the ages of 2 and 5, though Johnny was diagnosed several months before his second birthday.
The Impact of Childhood Cancer
The Mother’s Day message that Benson shared is one that really resonates in the SurvivorNet community. In a previous interview with SurvivorNet, Jayne Wexler, whose son also battled ALL, explained that in addition to regular parent worries — having a child with cancer brings a whole host of new anxieties you have to learn to live with.
Jayne Wexler shares her story about how childhood cancer impacts the whole family.
“My husband and I will always have fear,” she said. “I don’t think we can ever let go of that. Just when he was OK, then he relapsed, and then he had the bone marrow transplant … so there’s always some sort of worry. And I do try — you hear people say this — we do have to live each day and be thankful for what we have. And it’s hard to remember that when you’re caught up … it’s very hard to just sort of enjoy the moment, because we just don’t know what’s going to happen in the future.”
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