In the beginning, sex wasn’t that great. She was still trying to keep her preventative surgery a secret. But once she opened up, sex went back to normal.
“Dating in New York is already so hard — it’s like the hardest thing in the world,” she says, “and I was like I’m not going to add in this extra complication of having fake breasts. And what is that going to be like when I start dating again?”
Read More “I started seeing a therapist after my surgery. Now I feel like I have much better communication tools,” Stallings says, “I had the surgery in September of 2014 and probably up through like the summer of 2015 I wasn’t trying very hard to actively date anyone. I just kind of didn’t have the emotional bandwidth,” she says, “I made the mistake of trying to hide what was going on.” “My breasts look very normal, but it’s an implant, so if you grab the implant too hard that actually feels very terrible,” she says. “But if you haven’t told your partner you have implants, then you really don’t have a way to be like ‘Hey, don’t do this.'” “My current partner, we were set up on a blind date in the fall of 2016. We just had a very up front conversation the first time we were intimate about, ‘Hey, this kind of touch feels good, this kind of touch might not feel good. You should ask me questions if you think somethings going to be painful. And if I think somethings painful then I will talk to you about it.'”
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