Moving On After Facing Cancer
- Fox News host Laura Ingraham, 60, told SurvivorNet she rarely speaks publicly about facing breast cancer yet the experience had a profound effect on her.
- “I never wanted to dwell on it,” she explained. Many survivors experience a similar feeling. There’s a certain sense of empowerment with getting up and moving on. For some people that may mean getting back to work, hobbies, social engagements, and more.
- Ingraham said that her family and her faith both helped her get through cancer.
- Anecdotally, experts have told SurvivorNet that a positive attitude whether that comes from prayer, spirituality, or a just a general sense of gratitude can make a big difference in how well someone handles treatment.
“It's a long way in the rear view mirror sixteen years out for me but you always think about it,” Ingraham told us last year. “Anyone who says they don't think about it, I don't know if I buy that.”
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“I want people to remember me not for 'She had breast cancer,'" she said. "Most people who get through it just want to be the mom, the friend who happened to have breast cancer. Nothing against it, but I don't wear ribbons, it's just not who I am. I'm pretty private. Then again I do want to help people who are confused or don't know what to do."
The Power of Prayer & Positivity
Ingraham, a Glastonbury, Connecticut native, said that her "tight circle of friends" and prayers from all "across the country" helped her get through the challenges cancer treatment brought.
“I know so many women will say: '[getting the cancer diagnosis] was a curse and a blessing.' The blessing is that in the course of our busy lives you don't have a real chance to be with old college friends, high school friends, my brothers, people who I don't get to see normally.
“I found myself spending time with them because they were insistent they would be with me at key points along the way. That was great, not great because I didn't feel well along the way, but great to be with them. I think they actually learned a lot as well.”
When it comes to her spirituality, Ingraham said prayer was “a big, big part” of her recovery.
“I have a deep faith and don't think I could have gotten through it without it. I had a lot of people praying for me. I really felt the power of that prayer. It helped me 100%.”
In a previous conversation on the role of faith and religion when it comes to living with cancer, colorectal cancer surgeon at Cedars-Sinai, Dr. Zuri Murrell, told SurvivorNet that he has noticed his patients who have an innate sense of positivity or gratitude tend to handle treatment better.
“I believe that prayer is very helpful but also, in some patients who don’t believe in prayer, I believe that a positive attitude is what’s really important,” Dr. Murrell explained.
“And I believe that, for a lot of people, prayer helps them develop this.”
Dr. Zuri Murrell explains how a positive attitude can make a difference during the cancer journey.
Coping With Grief
Many people experience a sense of grief after a cancer diagnosis. For Ingraham, it was exacerbated since she had just lost her mother to lung cancer a few years before her own diagnosis.
“I always tell my friends who have mothers who live nearby, who are able to pop over and hang out: 'You are so blessed. I would give pretty much anything to be able to have a few minutes with my mother,'” she said.
Ingraham keeps her mom's memory alive by sharing both her personality “feisty and funny” and her impact with her kids. Ingraham has three children of her own.
“In a different era she would have been a small business owner, an entrepreneur. She was super savvy on making do with very little money; she could add ten numbers in her head at one time. She never went to college, she worked as a waitress for most of her life. We talk about her a lot,” she said.
It’s clear to see her mom’s influence when she talks about her own goals not for her career but for her children.
“My goal is to be the best mom I can be. I want to see [my kids] independent and strong and happy and prepared as best as they can be for life in all its fullness.”
Contributing: Gayle Jo Carter
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