Husband Shares Wife's Cancer Journey
- Matthew Cauli is a caregiver for his wife who was diagnosed with ovarian cancer during the height of the COVID-19 pandemic in New York.
- He is documenting his transition from husband to caregiver on TikTok and has garnered millions of views.
- It’s important for caregivers to make sure they take care of themselves both mentally and physically.
Matthew Cauli’s world was flipped upside down when his wife, Kanlaya, suffered a massive stroke during the height of the COVID-19 pandemic in New York last year. She then had a second stroke. When a family member gets sick, it can be very hard to process the news; going from husband to caregiver can be a very difficult transition.
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Read More When that family member is diagnosed with cancer, it can be even more challenging. Caregiving often comes with new responsibilities, including taking your loved one to doctor’s appointments, helping them deal with the side effects of chemotherapy, or taking the lead in household duties like cooking dinner or getting the kids to school. Cauli is certainly familiar with some of those challenges. After multiple tests, doctors confirmed that Kanlaya, now 36, has ovarian cancer, which caused the massive strokes. Cauli, also 36, is now on TikTok, having garnered
more than 4.5 million views, where he shares his wife’s road to recovery, including her chemotherapy treatment, and the love that he has for her. Cauli, who works two jobs to support his family, is a caregiver not only for his wife, but also their four-year-old son, Ty. He uses TikTok to share his raw emotions in the rollercoaster journey that comes with being a caregiver to a loved one with cancer. In one video that has more than 3.8 million views, he says,
“It’s so hard, but I will man up and get my family through this!” Caregiving Isn't Easy; Recognize That You May Need HelpGoing through a cancer journey can be a financial burden as well. A GoFundMe page has been started to help the family pay for some of the hospital bills that are not covered by their health insurance.
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