Feeling Supported During a Cancer Journey
- “Today” show host Hoda Kotb, 58, recently shared that her mother was one of the last people she saw before she was wheeled off for her mastectomy, the removal of both breasts.
- In a previous interview, Hoda said her mother was an “always” someone she could count on to be by her side no matter what was going on.
- Having support during a cancer journey is crucial for your physical and emotional well-being.
- One of our experts says loneliness is a significant risk factor for a patient’s trajectory of recovery.
Hoda, 58, was diagnosed with breast cancer in February 2007 after doctors found lumps in her breast tissue during a routine exam. For treatment, the then-43-year-old underwent a mastectomy and reconstruction, followed by five years of taking the drug tamoxifen (Nolvadex).
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Hoda Kotb has never been shy about sharing the huge impact Sameha Kotb has had on her life. In 2016, she lovingly described her with a simple and touching phrase: an “always.”
“I think everyone needs an ‘always,'” she explained. “Someone who you look up and you say, no matter where I am, no matter what I'm going through, no matter what I'm doing, I'll look up, and there they'll be."
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During the recent “Today” episode, Hoda reflected on having her mother’s support during her adoption of Haley, 6, and Hope, 4, after breast cancer caused fertility struggles.
"I remember when I placed Haley in my mom's arms, and I thought to myself, who would have ever thought that could happen?" Hoda said, through tears. "From that moment there in the hospital to this moment, watching my mom hold my children. It's like, God is good."
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Today, Hoda’s girls refer to Sameha as Tata the informal word for grandma in Lebanese Arabic. And the connection between grandmother and granddaughters has only grown.
"She loves her grandkids and they love her beyond," Hoda said.
Support During a Cancer Journey
Support during a cancer journey, like Hoda Kotb had from her mom, is crucial and not just for your mental health.
"Studies have found consistently that loneliness is a significant risk factor for physical and mental illnesses and the trajectory of recovery," licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Marianna Strongin wrote in a column for SurvivorNet.
"Therefore, it will be important that you surround yourself with individuals who care and support you throughout your treatment."
It’s wonderful to find comfort in family and friends, but sometimes people need to look outside of their normal circles of support during a cancer.
For ovarian cancer survivor Ni Guttenfelder, therapy proved to be exactly what she needed. Though it did take some time to match with the right counselor.
"Initially I went to a session where I just cried and the counselor basically told me what I was feeling was normal and didn't offer me any type of feedback. But I knew that I needed something more than that. Not just a crying session and a pat on my shoulder," she said.
"What I have found is that it's critical to find the right counselor, not just any counselor."
Once she found a counselor she could really open up to, Guttenfelder started to see some clarity.
"One of the things that my counselor has taught me from the very beginning that has helped me is the concept of acceptance," she said.
"Acceptance is a process. It's like downloading a computer file in increments. Visualizing it in that way has really helped me."
Beyond family, friends and therapy, support groups, social media and community groups such as church groups or athletic teams can all be great places to combat loneliness during a cancer battle.
No matter what you decide to do, consider opening up to at least some people. You never know how much it could help you, or those around you, unless you try.
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